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When the Bell Tolls

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I’m going to write this and then just sort of brace myself for the comments.  After hours and hours of research, deliberation, late night conversation, and wringing of the hands, we’ve made a controversial decision.

This fall, we will be homeschooling Remmy for kindergarten.

In my mind, I can see a couple of my friends reading this and their heads exploding.  I get it.  I totally get it.  I vacillate between thinking that we’re certified weirdos and YEAH this is totally the right decision and then a little bit of both.

Remmy’s preschool experience was wonderful, but as her second year of preschool came to a close, Jack and I realized that we still hadn’t decided what we were going to do for fall.  We could send her to the local public school or we could send her to a local private school.  Both seemed like good options, but we just couldn’t settle on either one.  Finally, the idea of homeschooling came to surface, an option that I would never ever ever consider, despite knowing some people who had been homeschooled from K to 12th grade, and despite the stereotypes, are healthy, normal contributors to society.

When the Bell Tolls: Our Decision to Homeschool

There are a lot of reasons why we’re choosing to homeschool, but I won’t bore you with them all.  Basically – a major reason – is that she’s still young.  While she seems to be ahead academically, she’s still young.  Not incapable, just… still young.  We only have plans to homeschool Remmy for one year.

We read this article and some of her thoughts on homeschooling seem to align with ours (for this year).

In the fall, Sophie will still go to preschool and we’ll still have Rachel, which means that I am at liberty to carve out some one-on-one time for schoolwork.  I’ll have to edit my work schedule a bit, but now that we’ve made the decision, I’m feeling really good about it.  The idea of Remmy only being awake for 12 hours a day, not coming home until 3:30, doing homework, having dinner, rushing off to ballet (or whatever) and passing out by 7:00… when she’ll have just turned five.  I don’t love it.  I know plenty of people do it (I did it; Jack did it), but while we have this amazing opportunity to homeschool her for one year, I’m going to take it.  I’m going to enjoy my year at home with Remmy before I send her off into the great, big world.

She was still a baby when Sophie was born, and even though she was only 3 when Minnie was born, she’s always been the eldest, and she’s never been the baby.  I know that may seem silly, but the idea of really giving her some quality time where she’s learning and growing makes us all feel like this is… just so right.

When the Bell Tolls: Our Decision to Homeschool

What about socialization?  This is the first question people ask, and it just so happens to be the first question Lola asked (hi, Mom!).  She’ll get plenty of it via extracurriculars, time with friends, and a homeschooling co-op we joined (that Sophie + Minnie will get to experience this year, as well).

Am I competent?  Okay, this is a question I asked myself, and I will now try to confidently say YES.  I am.  I can teach her all of the things she needs to know for kindergarten.  I’ve got access to fantastic curricula, open communication with her would-be kindergarten teacher at the private school who is slated to be her first grade teacher next year (to make sure we’re on track), and the support of family (hi, Mom!), a few other homeschooling friends, and teachers.  We have access to great libraries and museums and wonderful things to enrich her and educate her.  We can work at her pace, instead of the pace of the class.  We can enrich the areas in which she’s excelling, and offer her extra support in the areas that she’s not.  And God bless the internet, because I have instant access to tools, advice, and support.

I am excited and nervous, but thrilled for our year together.

But I may puke like three times in the first week, if you want to come over and hold my hair back.  Don’t forget the ginger quail.

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134 Comments

  • Reply MissCaron July 22, 2013 at 11:32 am

    GOOD FOR YOU!

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:28 pm

      It took me awhile to decide whether or not this is sarcastic or enthusiastic, but I’m definitely just going to assume it’s the latter, haha! Thank you!

      • Reply MissCaron July 22, 2013 at 3:16 pm

        LOL. My quick response … for that I apologize. Really though, I’m so happy for your brave choice. Always do what’s best for your family. You know best. Remember that! I’m working on my Masters in Early Childhood Ed and parents have such a huge role in the lives of their young ones and I’m glad that you’ve determined how to best maximize that influence for your family’s benefit. So, again, good for you! I wish more folks had the ability to be more involved.

  • Reply Michelle July 22, 2013 at 11:36 am

    Dude, that’s awesome! Isn’t a great that we live in a country where we can do what we as parents know is best for our kids?!

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      Yes, I’m grateful for the freedom to be able to choose from multiple available paths for my children. :)

  • Reply Stephanie Abbott July 22, 2013 at 11:36 am

    I don’t even understand how you have the ability to make, what I previously deemed at totally odd and ludicrous ideas, seem totally normal and advantageous. Seriously, you’re amazing and good for you!! xo

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      Haha, Stephanie!! This comment made me feel SO GOOD.

    • Reply Tanja August 26, 2013 at 2:21 pm

      I 100% agree with that comment. I’ve always thought people who home school are a little different but now I can see why. Thanks for that.

  • Reply Sasafras July 22, 2013 at 11:41 am

    I am so happy for you and Remmy! It will be a great year together! I agree, it seems like you are starting her off on the right food by spending time with her before she goes into the world…will you do the same with the others? I dont have children (yet? maybe never? lol) but Ive always thought homeschooling produced the brightest and most independent minds (I dated a boy that was home-schooled, as was his whole family and have worked with kids in recreation that were H.S. as well)! The only part of your post I DONT like is that you had to defend yourself in the beginning :( ! It is your child and choosing a positive alternative is your choice! Have a great, fun year!!!

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:30 pm

      I’m not sure what I’m going to do, to be honest. I won’t make any decisions until the end of kindergarten. :)

      I know, it seems silly that I had to put all of these qualifiers in the beginning, but the Internet is vast and wide and sometimes, to be honest, intimidating.

  • Reply Cindy July 22, 2013 at 11:41 am

    I recently decided to home school as well my kids are preschool age and I am committed to trial through kindergarten though I hope to go all through high school there are just so many benefits. I hope you will consider going full on homeschooler. It is so nice to know your children get to be children for a long time. Good luck it’s super hard but super worth it.

  • Reply Emily J. July 22, 2013 at 11:42 am

    I’m like 97% positive I’d be awful at homeschooling, but I think it’s a wonderful option if a parent feels up to the challenge! Good for you and good for Remmy! And you know what? Good for y’all all over again when it’s time to go to private school. Your girls are lucky to have parents who love her enough to make well thought out decisions on her education. :-)

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:46 pm

      Thanks, Emily! We’re totally open to all paths, really. Just making a decision for this year to start. :)

  • Reply JCF July 22, 2013 at 11:42 am

    I just wanted to say–awesome! We homeschooled my Kindergartener this last year, for many of the same reasons you mentioned. It was mostly great. The hardest aspect for me was trying to get the schoolwork done with two younger kids running around. If you’ve got one-on-one time carved out, that’s fantastic! My son learned a lot, had fun, and grew up a bunch. We had previously been debating whether or not we’d send him on to 1st grade or put him public Kinder this year, and it is pretty clear he’s ready for 1st. As a kid with a birthday right before the cutoff, it wasn’t clear last year. I’m so glad we kept him home while he got a chance to grow up a bit extra this year. While it isn’t the right choice for our family this year (oldest is going to 1st, middle is going to preschool, youngest is home still) for a variety of reasons, I’d love to homeschool again in the future.

    Though it may be tough for your schedule with working, try to join a local homeschool group. You’ll get lots of good tips, meet cool people and their cool kids, and be able to take advantage of field trips and local deals for homeschoolers (we went to a local science museum for a total of $28 for our family of 5, rather than the usual price of $140). Have fun!

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:48 pm

      Great idea, thanks!

  • Reply Becky Castle Miller July 22, 2013 at 11:43 am

    Fantastic! You’ll love it! As a person homeschooled all the way through high school, who went on to get a 4-year college degree in 3 years and then embarked on a fun and interesting career, I think you are doing your daughter a great service. I did preschool at home for my now-six-year-old, and when she started school in the Netherlands this year, she was way ahead of her class. Except for, you know, speaking Dutch. Which is why we put her in school. :) Were we still in the US, we would have homeschooled her.

  • Reply Becky Castle Miller July 22, 2013 at 11:44 am

    Also, if you start reading Penelope Trunk’s homeschooling blog, you may never send her back to school.

  • Reply Cookie July 22, 2013 at 11:46 am

    As if!! My little one starts kindergarten this year too. I have been so stressed with making my decision but we’re doing it too! We’re going to home school! I am nervous about, but super excited! Just like you I have my kids back to back with my oldest just starting school. She had to grow up so fast! Now I’ll be able to spend time with her. I hate the idea of sending them away and only getting to say good night to them. I think the hardest part about homeschooling is just making the decision to do it! You feel great about after you make the choice!

  • Reply Amanda July 22, 2013 at 11:46 am

    Not weird at all- TOTALLY AWESOME! :) Best wishes for an awesome extra year at home with your gal!

  • Reply Katy July 22, 2013 at 11:53 am

    Roo,

    I was also a “young” five-year-old (birthday in September, so I wouldn’t turn six until first grade), but my school had a program called Developmental Kindergarten for those kids who weren’t ready for kindergarten. It was a half-day program, and my mom just happened to be the teacher (and still was until this year when she retired after twenty-seven years). All this to say, being a young five-year-old is a real thing, and I think it is totally understandable if you think Remmy needs an extra year before going to school all day! Although I wasn’t home schooled, it worked out fine for me to wait until I was six to enter “real” school.

    Good luck!

  • Reply Meg July 22, 2013 at 11:59 am

    That’s an awesome, terrifying, amazing decision! We’ve got 2yrs till we have to decide (finally a perk for a December baby – one more year at home)…and while the kids are Thriving in preschool/daycare, we have some Huge reservations about sending our oldest son to kindergarten/beyond. Not that I want to homeschool. And still not how it would work with our family and current life choices. But it’s percolating in the back of my brain….

  • Reply Nichole July 22, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    Good for you, not just because your choosing to homeschool, but for choosing what is best for Remmy and your family!
    P.S. Love Penelope Trunk as well!

  • Reply Brynn July 22, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    I am so happy to hear this. I have already starting debating this for my now 2 year old. And I work full time out of the home. So if I can figure out a way to do it, I would love to as well!
    Good luck to you, and I hope you will let us know how it goes and give us tips along the way.

  • Reply Janelle @ Two Cups of Happy July 22, 2013 at 12:01 pm

    It sounds like you really thought this through. I started school when I was 4 (turning 5 on Dec 4th) and I was unequivocally ready (literally pushing mom out the door after dropping me off), but not all kids are. It’s great that you’ll be able to give her the attention she needs to excel in grade one. I’d love to see a few posts on how it’s going in the Fall! PS – I know you’ve obviously heard of Ruth @ Cakies who homeschools her kiddos. She would be a great resource for – you know – when you’ve maxed out Pinterest. Haha.

  • Reply Liz E. July 22, 2013 at 12:02 pm

    Even though I have zero home schooling experience (neither mine nor my kids (considering I don’t have any (yet))), I’m so impressed by your decision and hope you get nothing but love and support from family, friends and commenters in the blogosphere. This is such an important decision and shows your love for your kids to make the best choice that makes the most sense for them. You’ll do great and Remmy will flourish. I hope to follow in your shoes one day :)

  • Reply Cassie July 22, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    I would LOVE to homeschool my girls. However, my oldest is slated to start Kindergarten next fall… which is when I’ll be finishing my degree. Due to timing and lack of additional income, it just isn’t going to happen that year. We want to because she’s very advanced but she’s extremely hyper and stubborn… I’m going to school to be a teacher and I know I’m freaking out about how to give each student individualized attention and how to get into the flow of doing so, and I’m insanely worried that she won’t get what she needs at school, but I know that I just can’t completely do homeschooling at the moment. Even though I have a fabulous understanding of curricula, child development, etc., etc., it just isn’t going to happen right now. I hope that by the time my youngest is ready for Kindergarten that my husband will have a job where I can afford to stay home and homeschool the girls, especially because my youngest will be entering Kindergarten two weeks after turning 5!

    • Reply Diane July 22, 2013 at 12:16 pm

      Cassie, please read what I posted below about another year in pre-school when you have a child with a late birthday. As a teacher you may have other ideas, but I think it’s worth considering when your child is not ready to start kindergarten.

  • Reply Amanda July 22, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    Good for you! It’s sad that sometimes we hesitate in making decisions for our family public (family, friends, the internet) because we know there will be blowback & judgement. Good luck to your family!

  • Reply kirby July 22, 2013 at 12:08 pm

    Dude, that’s AWESOME! I wish I could do that. I know I do not have the patience for it and even if I did, I work 40-50 hours outside the house, I would hate for my Leila to lose out on so much b/c I had to “squeeze” it in btwn working and Isabelle.

    HOWEVER, she did choose to go back to Daycare (with a pre-school program) since she has to be 5 before August 1 to attend kindergarten, she’d wind up in another year of pre-school anyway-which is only offered at the Catholic school in our town. So it comes out to the same amount of $ but in this case she will be the only 4/5 yr old there being taught so she will have one-on-one time and the daycare provider is AWESOME with her given he new temper tantrums b/c of everything going on in her life. :-(

    Shoot, if you want to do an educational trip with Remmy, let me know, I’ll take a day off and Leila and I would be so happy to join you!!! Or if you need anything, let me know!!!

  • Reply Kelly July 22, 2013 at 12:09 pm

    Rock on! We homeschooled our kids for about 4 years using a combo of techniques and outside help that worked well for each of them individually. Now, they are all in school full-time though.

    I really think this is one of those ‘issues’ where some people get all bent out of shape and think it’s either one choice or another. In our experience listening to our kids, and knowing their needs helped us create the best environment for them whether that was homeschooling, traditional school, online schooling, or an open curriculum school.

    Feel free to reach out if you have any questions I can help with.

    • Reply Kelly July 22, 2013 at 12:10 pm

      Hello, my kids interrupted me and my last sentence makes no sense. If you have any questions I can help with, holla at your gurl. ;)

  • Reply Sandra July 22, 2013 at 12:11 pm

    I was homeschooled along with my two sisters and I loved it. When it came to making the decision to homeschool my 3 daughters it was a tough one. We committed to one year, just like you guys. We ended up loving it, and I continue to homeschool all 3, my oldest will be in 5th grade this year. Each year we reevaluate and decide to keep homeschooling, I enjoy teaching and learning with them. A great homeschool co-op and supportive friends are a must. Good for you! You will have a wonderful year, take it slow and don’t set unrealistic goals. Set yourself up for success and enjoy the time with them. Good luck!

  • Reply Diane July 22, 2013 at 12:12 pm

    I think it’s a fantastic idea to give Remmy some one on one time and allow her to grow up a bit. Though my sons went to private school after preschool, I read a lot of homeschool blogs and my sister homeschools her 4 kids. There a many wonderful groups & resources out there to support you and I think you will do great!

    Just one suggestion for you… If you still feel Sophie is young next year to be in 1st grade, and you don’t want to continue homeschooling her, you can put her in kindergarten at the private school. My older son had a mid-July birthday when the cut-off for school was August 1st. He was very advanced academically, but immature behaviorally & emotionally. We made the decision to put him in preschool for an additional year at age 5 and started him at the school he would be attending, rather than the same preschool. He was able to spend another year going 1/2 day and for many reasons it was one of the best decisions we ever made.

    We did the same thing with my younger son 5 years later and it worked out well for him too. They both graduated from high school at almost 19. Particularly with boys, I’d rather have my child be the oldest in the class than the youngest. Pressure at schools starts early & continues throughout their academic lives.

    The last thing I will say is that if she’s academically advanced, the school may pressure you to put her in 1st grade. That happened with my older son, because he was extremely advanced. I was glad I resisted and placed him where I felt he belonged. Whatever happens, you & Jack are the parents~ go with your gut feelings about what is best for each of your girls! Hope you’ll enjoy a wonderful year and I look forward to hearing about it.

    • Reply Sarah August 28, 2013 at 12:07 am

      That is exactly what I am doing with my son Diane and precisely what I have suggested for any young kindergartener that entered my classroom. I am often surprised that so many parents don’t realize it is an option. The standards required are not easy, especially for those who are younger and not developmentally ready, let alone mature enough. I am very confident in my decision for my son to get a third year of preschool before kdg. (He turned five the end of April.) In my area, most schools require a student to be five by August 1st in order to even go to kindergarten.

  • Reply Lisa July 22, 2013 at 12:13 pm

    Hooray! What a gift you will be giving Remmy. I’m a teacher and have to say that all of the kids that I have come across who have been home-schooled are exceptional people. Their social skills are far higher than children that I have worked with in both public and private schools. I hope you have an amazing adventure and enjoy your extra time with Remmy.

  • Reply Amber July 22, 2013 at 12:17 pm

    Good for you!!! I would love to be able to homeschool.

  • Reply Kirsten July 22, 2013 at 12:19 pm

    If you feel like you can do it, and do it awesome (which I’m sure you can!), then go for it! I’m scared out of my mind at the prospect, and I’ve seen it go really badly, personally, but I also know it works great for some families. It sounds like the perfect choice for you guys. Rock it, be awesome, and tell us all about it!

  • Reply Shana D July 22, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    Good for you hun!

  • Reply Janaya July 22, 2013 at 12:21 pm

    What an incredible gift for not just Remmy, but all of your girls! I admire your strength to make the decision that is best suited for your family-bravo!!

  • Reply Amanda July 22, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    that’s so awesome! go you!

  • Reply Stephanie R July 22, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    Yay! Good for you guys! I love the idea of homeschooling and I only pray that I am able to do the same for my family when the time comes.

  • Reply Caitlin @ {walker whimsy} July 22, 2013 at 12:27 pm

    Good for you for making the decision that’s best for your family! I was homeschooled for kindergarten and 6th-12th grade and it was awesome. I’m socially awkward fo’ sho’, but I’m relatively certain it wasn’t the homeschooling. In fact, in hindsight, public school would probably have been a disaster for that very reason.

    You guys will do great!

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 2:48 pm

      So glad to hear that you had a positive experience, Caitlin! THANK YOU. :)

  • Reply Lisa S July 22, 2013 at 12:29 pm

    This is so great!!! If I had the opportunity to homeschool, I absolutely would. It’s not an option for our family right now but I so wish that it was. Such a gift for your sweet girl!

  • Reply NatalieW July 22, 2013 at 12:30 pm

    Way to go! I think it’s so awesome that you care that much about your daughter’s education and development. The both of you will be able to make some wonderful memories together. I’m planning to homeschool as well. Really, homeschooling has come such a long, long way. I’ve read several articles recently about more highly educated professionals choosing home education because of the greater opportunities, so the stereotypes are going away. I look forward to reading about your homeschool adventures!

  • Reply Jodi T. July 22, 2013 at 12:39 pm

    I’m so JEALOUS! I would have loved to spend that year with my son, and my daughter who will start kinder this year. I’ve always entertained these thoughts in my head about staying at home and teaching my kids… but then my dream bubble pops. Enjoy your time with her, what great memories.

    (((Don’t let nobody tell you what you are doing isn’t the right thing. You are her mother for goodness sakes, and you know better than anyone.)))

    Get it girl!

    Jodi T.

  • Reply Monique July 22, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    number 7: ” Our family spends our best hours of each day together. We were giving away our kids during their best hours, when they were rested and happy, and getting them back when they were tired, grumpy and hungry. I dreaded each evening, when the fighting and screaming never seemed to end….”
    THIS THIS THIS!! I so feel this in my future, might have to looking into home school….

  • Reply Lisa July 22, 2013 at 1:01 pm

    Congrats on a big decision! I feel badly that you feel that you have to brace yourself for comments. Any given person may not agree, but you know what? She’s your child. This is your decision. End. of. story.

    Good luck and have fun!

    • Reply Lisa July 22, 2013 at 2:34 pm

      Plus, (FYI,) you used the word “vacillate” in your post. You are totally qualified.

  • Reply Rebecca | Seven2Seven8 July 22, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    You and Jack are the most capable of making good decisions for your children. The end. Trust it. You’ll do great, and she’ll be great, and you’ll have one more tool in your belt as you continue to navigate education for the next several years. I live in a town that is very much like “GREAT SCHOOL ON THIS BLOCK! CRAP SCHOOL ON THAT BLOCK! THE PRIVATE SCHOOLS COST MORE THAN MANY COLLEGES. YES, EVEN FOR GRADE SCHOOL.” (Ah, St. Louis.) I don’t have kidlets yet, but I can *totally* imagine a host of scenarios where home schooling could easily be the winning option.

  • Reply Megan July 22, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    I use to think only crazies home schooled their kids. But as we prep our son for 4k and start thinking about K, it is starting to sound like a better idea. I’m hopeful he will get into one of the magnet schools, but if he doesn’t–I don’t think our neighborhood school is a good fit. I know EXACTLY what you mean. I hate that K is now full day. When I was a kid it was half day. I was a teacher before deciding to stay at home with my kids. I remember walking by the lunch room and seeing the kindergarteners and my stomach sunk. The lunchroom staff is just trying to get the kids fed and out of there and trying to stay on schedule, but when they are so young it is heartbreaking. These tiny beings in this giant school. They still need help with opening parts of their lunch, etc. Half of them don’t even eat. I don’t want my Quinn sitting in this giant cafeteria completely overwhelmed, ushered out before he has even eaten. I’m already stressing about this decision!!

  • Reply Brad [BradleyCowan] July 22, 2013 at 1:16 pm

    Good for you! Parenting is a constant act of weighing the pros and cons where the balance is almost impossible to maintain; it sounds like you (and Jack) are handling it well. Best of luck with this adventure… please keep us posted (pun intended). Thanks for linking the article above, it gives other parents (myself included) a lot to think about.

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 3:42 pm

      Oh yeah, I loved that article when I first read it – I swear I’ve read it ten times now.

  • Reply Laura @losingrace July 22, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    You don’t need to share any reasons for your decision, I 100% think you know what is best for you and your family. I know people who were home schooled and I know plenty who weren’t(myself included), there are times even now that I look back and wish I had been for a few years. I think it will be great quality time for the 2 of you and will really help prepare her for if/when she does go to public/private school. I’m sure it will be a major adjustment at first BUT, you handle their allergies and health issues great, and I am sure that was hard at first (and still is sometimes). You will make it work, that’s just who you are (or who I think you are from reading your blog the last few months).

  • Reply Erma July 22, 2013 at 1:28 pm

    Sounds like you’ve got all your ducks in a row. I think it’s great you’re able to communicate with Remmy’s future First Grade teacher and have access to so many resources. You got this.

  • Reply Sarah-Mae July 22, 2013 at 1:32 pm

    Hey Roo! I totally support you! I was home schooled k-12 and turned out pretty well (if I may say so myself). It is totally worth it and never allow anyone to tell you otherwise. In my area (VA) there is a lot of support for home schoolers. I don’t know what it’s like it CT, but I’m glad to hear you found a co-op. The only thing that was a struggle for myself as a home schooler was being labeled as weird by a few people who didn’t understand it. However, once they got to know me and if they took time to learn more about it, there was never any further issue. Everyone else has said it, but I’ll repeat it. You know Remmy better than anyone else. You can provide a better insight and understanding to her education than anyone else. Never let anyone discourage you, cause I got your back. : )

  • Reply Andrea July 22, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    I well we(the hus is very proactive in teaching) will be homeschooling our two this fall, 2nd and kinder I am so excitied and well a little terrified but nobody knows my kids like we do so who better to teach them. Thanks for the link I couldnt agree anymore with it all!

  • Reply Nicole July 22, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    Wow! I’ll be honest and say I was not expecting this post, but it sounds like you are making a great decision for your family! I know exactly what you mean about Remmy being “young”; I am (was? currently a SAHM) a primary school teacher and have seen many kiddo’s who would have benefited from an extra year at home/being h.s. for a year or two. Kudos to you and Jack for being so thoughtful toward your child’s education! I am confident you will have no trouble keeping Remmy on track academically- so much of Kindergarten is letting the child make sense of his/her world, and learn how to navigate it. Good luck, mama, you will be great!

    • Reply Roo July 22, 2013 at 3:43 pm

      Believe me, I was never expecting to write it, and here we are! Thanks so much, Nicole! xoxo

  • Reply Krystyn @ Really, Are You Serious? July 22, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    Congrats on making the decision. I think that’s the hardest part. And, if anybody knows a kid, it’s their parents, so way to trust your instincts.

  • Reply Kati July 22, 2013 at 2:09 pm

    Good for you! I went to public school for K-12 and excelled academically but at the same time pretty much hated school. I had some social anxiety & being around that many people everyday was just too much for me. If you would have asked me a few years ago, I never would have considered homeschooling, but more and more I think it might be something I’d be interested in doing. I think it’s so sad that parents have to worry so much about being judged for making the best decision for their children. Everyone should be able to just do what’s right for their kids – kudos to you for recognizing what’s best for Remmy & doing it!

  • Reply luann July 22, 2013 at 2:09 pm

    YAY! good for you! I was home-schooled from kindergarten through high school and I’m close to normal I promise. If it makes you feel better I went to college, earned dean’s list every semester and graduated with honors.I have a great job making good money and I have a social life with friends. Being home-schooled was and is such a blessing. My mom was able to teach each of us in way that best suited our learning styles.
    DO IT DO IT DO IT!

  • Reply Sondra July 22, 2013 at 2:35 pm

    Not that it matters, but I 100% support yours and Jack’s decision to home school. You have to do what’s best for your children and your situation. I hate the thought of young children being away from the home and family so much because of school, extracurricular activities and homework. I think it’s ridiculous! I could write a book about why I support homeschooling and why I dislike the current state of our public schools, but I won’t. I’ll simply leave with, “Congrats!, Way to go!, Good for you!, You’ll do great!”

  • Reply Echo July 22, 2013 at 2:58 pm

    Using the word vacillate properly answers your “am I competent?” question. lol. There should be no question.

    And, good for you. Don’t let The Man tell you what’s best for your children.

  • Reply Jennifer July 22, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Can I be selfish and ask “wait, you’ll still blog won’t you?” I love your writing!

    But seriously too, congrats on the decision. I don’t have kids and probably won’t, so I think you’re a superhero for trying it out.

  • Reply KNatGU July 22, 2013 at 3:45 pm

    Roo, you have one of my favorite Mommy quotes ever, but where sleep = school and guilt = choice. “You need sleep. If you need to let your baby cry it out so the whole family gets rest, do so without guilt. If you physically cannot stand hearing your baby cry and you need to co-sleep so the whole family gets rest, do so without guilt.”

    I think it is totally applicable here, ” You kid needs to learn, if that is public, private, or homeschooling, just go rock your choice” and I’m sure you will

  • Reply Lauren July 22, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    Roo, from all of the comments here, I don’t think you have to worry too much! (I’ve always felt like this was one of the nicest comment sections on the interwebs.) I think you and Jack should throw yourselves a little party. You do what you think is best for your kid(s) and you go boldly. Every kid is different with their own unique needs. Public school worked out great for me, private works better for others, and homeschooling is a completely viable and valid option that works phenomenally for some families- I have great, well-adjusted friends from all three groups. We will see what happens in a few years when I starting thinking about this with my little one. Can’t wait to read about your adventures- best of luck to you!

  • Reply Jennifer July 22, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    I think when you have a child that is young (for lack of a better word) homeschooling is a great option. Especially at this age when they ARE so young. I’m 100% positive that you can do it. I was worried about James (he has an April birthday… and he’s a boy), and I thought about red-shirting him. Thankfully, I’ve noticed in the last few months that he has matured a lot. Also, I mentioned my concerns to his pre-k teacher and they have been working with him on some things. Is he as ready as Cady was when she started? Probably not, but whether I want to admit or not from a “my baby is getting too big” standpoint, he is ready.

  • Reply Sianna July 22, 2013 at 4:10 pm

    Get it, Mommy!! You know what’s best for your girls, and anyone who has read more than one blog post knows you’ll do what’s right.

    I’m considering home schooling my youngest (my kids are almost 22, 16 and 4). It wasn’t ever an option with the older two, but this one is a little different lol Not in a bad way… she’s just not ready yet, in my mind. But I definitely understand all of the ups, down, confident moments and pukey moments that go into making such a decision!

    Also, when my son (16) was in preschool, there was a little girl who was a year older than the rest of the kids. Both of her parents were teachers, one elementary and one junior high. They told me that they always start their kids a year later than the suggested five, and they call it “the gift of time”. Their theory was that by giving the kids that extra year they would be older, bigger and smarter going into kinder. This in turn would make them a leader, rather than a follower or someone easily influenced by their peers. I don’t know how their kids have turned out, don’t know what they’ve done with the “gift of time”… but it’s something to think about. :)

  • Reply Kristen July 22, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    I’m glad you shared your decision! We are homeschooling our kids and my oldest will be 4 1/2 this fall so I joined our local co-op. We are going to take it year by year and reevaluate.

  • Reply embee July 22, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    i only approve if you force her to start wearing cuollotes. bhahahahahaha

  • Reply Sianna July 22, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    Oh, BTW, my son would totally home school, and has been asking to do so since we moved to Texas. However, in TX, if you home school you can’t participate in extra curricular activities. That means no marching band. Ain’t gonna happen, no way, no how. He tolerates going to school in a big city (we’re from Alaska) so that he can march.

    C’mon Tebow Bill!!!

  • Reply Jen S July 22, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    High five for doing what you & Jack believe is best for Remmy. That’s the best decision you can make. And whether you choose to send her to school after K or keep homeschooling… she’s a lucky girl to have parents who invest so much into deciding what’s best for her!

  • Reply Natasha July 22, 2013 at 4:37 pm

    That’s so awesome! I think it’s a great idea :)

  • Reply Andrea O. July 22, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    That’s terrific! I was homeschooled from 3rd grade till I graduated and home schooled my three boys for a few years, we took a break last school year and they all went to public school. During that school year they were asking to be homeschooled again, and I missed it too (long hours every day like you said, never got to spend time together and just chill) so we’re going to home school again this year.
    Three of my fave things about home schooling; Take a vacation whenever we want. Teaching my kids to read. Sleeping in.

  • Reply Lauren July 22, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    When you are raising kids, you never feel like you have the 100% right answer. And some of the best decisions happen to be the boldest:) Before I had kids, I would have NEVER considered homeschooling. But now, I’d do anything as long as it was the best decision for my child/family. My boys are about the same age differences as your girls, and we ended up holding my oldest son back a year for kindergarten because he was also very young in terms of the school age cut off date (late september birthday) and he just seemed really young to me. And some people had some comments about me wanting him to have an “advantage” over others, but the truth was that he just wasn’t ready. That last year he spent in AM preschool was priceless, and I’m grateful for every extra moment he got to spend home with me and his brothers. And when he went to school the next year, he got on the bus with a smile on his face, waved to me, and never looked back. He was just ready. It was the best decision for him (and me:).

  • Reply Kelly @ IdealistMom.com July 22, 2013 at 5:47 pm

    Good for you. (Not sarcastic at all, I promise.)

    My 5yo girl is scheduled to start kindergarten this fall, and I really struggled with this decision too. I’m at a place where I could conceivably homeschool, and I think it’s the best option for her.

    BUT because I am divorced and would have to get buy-in from the other parent…I just didn’t try. Maybe I’m a chicken. But I’m pretty sure he would have said no anyway. All the stereotypes and concerns about “socialization”, yadda yadda.

    So your post put a smile on my face because hey – look, someone’s taking the leap. Someone who read the same article as me. Someone who I follow every week.

    Good luck to you, and please keep us posted! Maybe you’ll give me the kick in the pants I need to try to make it happen for my girl.

  • Reply Lindsey B July 22, 2013 at 5:56 pm

    We’ve decided to home-school, too! My daughter is also going into kindergarten and we made the decision for a lot of the same reasons you did. I also have issue with the schools “owning” my child. Designating what they wear, when they have to be there, the curriculum. I remember being in school and being sick and they would chew my mom out for forgetting to send a note. I’m her kid, it’s her choice to let me stay home, she is the parent and she’s getting in trouble by the school?!

    We didn’t send her to preschool either and she’s going into kindergarten at a first grade level. I like being able to work at her level rather than the slowest kid in the classroom determining the pace….if that makes sense. I also like being able to use “real life” experiences as learning tools. She learned her numbers from street signs, telephones and the microwave (yeah, we don’t do a lot of cooking around here lol). It encourages her to look at her surroundings differently and not to limit learning to a classroom setting.

    We are also in a home-schooling co-op. I think if you’re involved with other homeschoolers and participate in extracurricular activities (she’s in dance class) they have plenty opportunity to socialize with their peers. It all comes down to personal choice. No one knows your kid better than you, right? Be happy and confident in your choice…and next year when she’s smarter than the rest of them you can maturely tell them all “Na na na na boo boo!” haha Good luck in the upcoming year!

    Lindsey
    High Heels and Training Wheels

  • Reply Erin July 22, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    You’ll do great! I was homeschooled and started “real” school in the third grade. I think I turned out pretty normal. I do contribute to society in a positive way. So you know, there’s that.

  • Reply Kari July 22, 2013 at 6:09 pm

    I like your approach – it reminds me of my parent’s with me. Each year they evaluated where each of us kids was at. I spent a couple of years in private school, but they saw that the academic pressure was throwing me into anxiety attacks (timed math tests for first graders is crazy). They then pulled me home for a couple of years, where I did great. I eventually spent a couple of years in public school, then a part time homeschool plan, then public again. Now, I’m a teacher, and feel this is a great method for parents that have the ability to be flexible year to year. Though it involved sacrifice on my mom’s part, my siblings and I rarely (almost never) went to the same schools all growing up, because they were gauging how each kid would do year to year.
    If your daughter isn’t ready for school quite yet, and you have the ability to stay home – that is incredible!

  • Reply Catherine July 22, 2013 at 6:48 pm

    Whatever decision you make for your family is the right one. I hope no-one gets on your back about it. Honestly? I didn’t even know that homeschooling had a stigma attached to it. I know a few homeschooling families and their kids are some of the loveliest, most well adjusted kids I have ever met. I homeschooled our youngest before he entered kindergarten (and he started at only half days at age 6) because I could see he needed to be home longer (he turned 6 a month after the year started so he will always be one of the oldest ones in his class). We have moved a lot and he just needed that extra year of stability. Anyway, all that to say, good on you! Parenting is hard enough without worrying about any sort of backlash from anyone.

  • Reply Ashton July 22, 2013 at 6:59 pm

    To me, if this is what’s best for Remmy then you do that. I think it’s fantastic that you can give go by her pace instead of anyone else’s. Good luck to you and Remmy.

  • Reply Heather (Laptops To Lullabies) July 22, 2013 at 7:20 pm

    I’m very interested in homeschooling but I don’t know anyone who’s done it. This sounds very well thought out, and I can’t wait to read more about it!

  • Reply Sheri July 22, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    Hi Roo!!! I’ve been reading your blog for over a year now and, honestly, this is the first time I’ve EVER commented! :) I enjoy your humor & most certainly your taste in music! {Holla!}. As a public school teacher for over 17 years, I can’t say I completely agree with your decision, I CAN say I understand WHY you made the choice for your precious Remmy!! I know that you probably have access to gobs of resources but, as a teaching blog addict, I wanted to share a few AMAZING ones with you:
    The Moffett Girls
    The Inspired Apple
    First Grade Parade
    These ladies are fantastic & are constantly sharing ideas and lessons. They even sell items on Teachers Pay Teachers.
    I wish you the best of luck & please don’t hesitate to contact me if you need a bit of guidance about what is expected of beginning first graders!! :) :)

  • Reply Eliza Wells July 22, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    I think it is awesome that you chose to homeschool! I am going into my Sophomore year of High School and have been homeschooled since pre-school along with my three other siblings!

  • Reply RebeccaK July 22, 2013 at 8:53 pm

    Awesome, good for you! We homeschool starting in first grade (after they attend a 3-6 montessori preschool) for many of the same reasons.

    I’m a fair amount older than my siblings, and my mom started homeschooling them when I was in high school. One of the things that convinced me I wanted to try homeschooling my own kiddos was watching my siblings have *much* better relationships with my parents and each other than I did, seeing that they were distanced a bit from the school pressure cooker while still having many friends, and seeing that they could be high achievers. . . with free time! We also plan to take it year-by-year to make sure we’re meeting the needs of the kids and not just homeschooling no matter what, but I’m really happy with how it’s going. Joining homeschool groups and co-ops has been especially helpful (and sibling-friendly!).

    Anyway, good for you for paying attention to your daughter’s best interests. How great that we have all these options these days.

  • Reply Amber S. July 22, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    At the end of the day, you are the only one who knows what is best for your kiddos. My oldest is 7 and just going into 1st grade because we opted to give her an extra year to grow up a bit before kindergarten. Academics had nothing to do with it, and I have absolutely no regrets–it was the right thing for her and will only serve her in the long run. Meanwhile, my youngest is starting kindergarten at 5 and is totally ready for it. Different kid, different needs, still no regrets. You’ll be a great teacher for her–and you’re right, you are totally capable of teaching her what she needs to go into first grade next year!

  • Reply Aya July 22, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    Huge fistbump and major props to you and Jack! I am impressed, inspired, and excited for you! You’re a great parent for doing the right thing for *your* child, not the default easy choice. Our school options are limited to religious private school and when the spectre of imminent tuition payments starts to haunt me, I fantasize about homeschooling too. Please post updates! I’m rooting for you!

  • Reply Mary Smith July 22, 2013 at 9:39 pm

    It really sounds like you have thought it out and are making the best decision for her! Way to go! I was homeschooled and I loved it! Contrary to popular belief, I actually got to do MORE socializing and extra curricular activities because I was homeschooled.

  • Reply Katherine July 22, 2013 at 10:06 pm

    We are keeping my oldest (she’s 5) home for kindergarten for the same reasons. I freaked out about the decision for a long time, then got fed up with myself for overthinking it. All signs pointed to homeschooling, and then we’ll revisit the topic again for the following year.

    I think this is great!

  • Reply Susan July 22, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    I praise and commend you! What a wonderful thing for you to do! It will be the hardest job, but one with the greatest rewards. I admire you for what you are doing. Go forward knowing that you have made the right decision and that you will be AWESOME! Know it!

  • Reply Melissia Lawson July 22, 2013 at 10:44 pm

    I think this is awesome! I homeschooled our oldest for 6 years and our middle child for 5 years. The oldest actually graduated this past year but sadly the middle child aka the boy, broke me. After five years, I couldn’t stand it anymore. I knew that this year it was necessary for our relationship for him to bless someone else with his attention during the day!
    Still wouldn’t trade the time I had with them for all the money in the world!!

  • Reply Melissia Lawson July 22, 2013 at 10:44 pm

    I think this is awesome! I homeschooled our oldest for 6 years and our middle child for 5 years. The oldest actually graduated this past year but sadly the middle child aka the boy, broke me. After five years, I couldn’t stand it anymore. I knew that this year it was necessary for our relationship for him to bless someone else with his attention during the day!
    Still wouldn’t trade the time I had with them for all the money in the world!!

  • Reply Lesley July 22, 2013 at 11:00 pm

    Kudos to you! I see more and more people on the internet homeschooling that I think I may start considering it for when my son starts school. I just don’t think I am disciplined enough to be successful at it. You in the other hand, I think you will be great at it! I look forward to some blog posts about your journey.

  • Reply Natalie July 22, 2013 at 11:09 pm

    Well done, Mama! I commend you for making the best decision for your family. I’m sure no one will regret it! Remy is one lucky little girl to have such caring, considerate (& smart) parents. Hats off!

  • Reply Natalie July 22, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    Well done, Mama! I commend you for making the best decision for your family. I’m sure no one will regret it! Remy is one lucky little girl to have such caring, considerate (& smart) parents. Hats off!

  • Reply Natalue July 22, 2013 at 11:11 pm

    Sorry for the double post & Remmy, not Remy.

  • Reply Leah Butler July 22, 2013 at 11:30 pm

    Go Roo! My husband and I have started wrestling with this decision as well. Podlette is only approaching preschool age which already sends me into cold sweats and nail biting – how does one PICK a preschool?! Jeez, all I remember about preschool is eating paste, learning to share and naptime. Remember when paste tasted like wintergreen? Maybe you are too young for that. LOL But I digress. We’re seriously considering homeschooling for our daughter but I do not know if I am up to the challenge. I will be waiting on baited breath for tales of your homeschooling year with Remmy. Good Luck!

  • Reply Naomi July 22, 2013 at 11:40 pm

    Good for you for making this tough decision to do something you know your daughter needs! I was homeschooled for kindergarten, 1st, and 3rd-5th grades, went to a Christian school in 10th and public school the rest of the time. I had great experiences at each place because each was where I needed to be at that time. My parents decided to send my siblings to Christian school after having some bad experiences with public school and then decided to homeschool because of bad experiences at the Christian school. My mom had to quit her job which cut our income by more than half and we lost our insurance. My parents homeschooled us because they were convinced it was what we needed, and they were right. Those years at home with my mom were precious, and I loved the independence homeschooling allowed. I have always appreciated and respected my parents’ willingness to make difficult choices and personal sacrifices to provide us with the best education they could-it was the single greatest demonstration of their love for me, at least in my mind. Your daughter will look back one day and appreciate what you’re doing for her now. Remember, you don’t have to be perfect. I didn’t do any science in 3rd grade (not recommending skipping subjects) but I’ve done very well in every science class since, even though I bear an undying hatred for Physics. Fuel the hunger for knowledge that your children were born with and encourage their talents and interests, and they’ll be just fine :)

    • Reply Melanie August 11, 2013 at 11:45 pm

      “Fuel the hunger for knowledge that your children were born with and encourage their talents and interests, and they’ll be just fine.”

      THIS!!

  • Reply Kristen @ TeachingStars July 23, 2013 at 7:03 am

    SO glad you are trying out homeschooling! I started out awhile ago thinking I would just do a year but it has been such a positive experience for, not only my children, but me as well, that we’re just keeping on going.
    Good luck and happy adventures to your family in whatever you do!

  • Reply Stephanie Parady July 23, 2013 at 8:02 am

    Hey,
    Every child is different as well. You are doing what you think is best for your child. I never felt comfortable as a kid in school. I was very nervous all the time which became a ginormous problem for me and my education. I should have been homeschooled but there was no possibility of that. I think what you are doing is great. On top of everything else you are doing as a wife and mother. Props to you!

  • Reply Robin Dini July 23, 2013 at 8:43 am

    I totally support your decision. We’re in a similar cunundrum ourselves because we’re not crazy about the school system in town (Hi Neighbor!). I agree on the same points. They do well in preschool but kindergarten being a full day for such a young child is a lot. It’s too much too soon. Half day was great when we were kids. I remember loving that. I have resources on my Pin board and I have a good friend who is homeschooling her son if you’d like to get in touch with her and learn more about it. He might do some preschool time at Montessori but the consensus is that mom is going to school him as well.

  • Reply Meg July 23, 2013 at 9:00 am

    Yay! So proud of you!! Our bambino is only a year old, but we’re hoping to homeschool (and I currently work in a school). Will you be sharing how things go, and perhaps what curricula you’ve chosen? :-)

  • Reply Kristy @ Kristy's Health Revolution July 23, 2013 at 9:00 am

    Sounds like an awesome plan to me! Especially the part about being able to spend some quality time with her before you send her on her way to 8 hours of school every day for 12 years!! That part made me go –“Awww!”

    Good luck!

  • Reply Rachel S. July 23, 2013 at 9:15 am

    Good for you, I think you have made a great choice. I was never home-schooled but I had friends that were and they loved it. I don’t think there is much of the “weird” kid syndrome with home-schools anymore since there are so many co-ops now and the kids do get the socialization that they need.

  • Reply Leigh July 23, 2013 at 10:00 am

    I applaud your decision. I do not even have kids yet AND I am a public school teacher in NY. The way things are changing in education right now I am not convinced I want to subject my future children to it. For the first time this year I had 7th grade students (ages 12-13) CRYING during the NYS exams. I ended the year feeling defeated and wary about next year NOT fulfilled and excited as I have in the past. Based on my student’s end of year surveys they shared the same feelings.

    I look forward to reading about your homeschooling adventures!

  • Reply Megan July 23, 2013 at 10:33 am

    Good for you! It sounds like you have made a conscientious and intentional decision, and I think Remmy will benefit. I know some people have said you didn’t need to preface your post, but I think I understand where you are coming from. Even though it doesn’t matter what people think, it can be difficult to deal with nay-sayers (which, it appears from the comments I’ve read, are few and far between). I hope it all goes well, and I’ll be looking forward to hear how it goes (my husband is verrrrry pro-homeschooling, so I believe we will be homeschooling when the time comes). :-)

  • Reply Penelope @ A Word With Penelope July 23, 2013 at 10:47 am

    I was homeschooled and I turned out normal, I would say. :) People are always surprised when I reveal that I was homeschooled, so I take that as a good sign.

    As for socialization, I think homeschooling is better than what you get in a school setting. In school, you’re with kids your own age every minute of the day. In real life as an adult, you have to know how to interact with people of all ages. You get practice doing that as a homeschooler because you’re around whole families together- out on field trips, interacting with adults and other kids of all ages, not just your own age. I find that I am not as enslaved as my adult peers to trends and pop culture and being “cool” because that wasn’t the water I was drinking growing up.
    You’re going to rock it, Roo!

  • Reply Aj's and Penelope's Mom July 23, 2013 at 11:17 am

    you know what, if you feel up to task why not. Aj was newly 5 when starting K last year and it was tough. On the bus at 8:30, not back home again til 4pm. He was so tired and it felt like the 3 hrs we had between coming home from school and going to bed was frantic. We had to stop any weekday activities it just wasn’t possible to squeeze them in with him so tired. He did well with his school work, I was really impressed, but the long day was tough on him emotionally and there were several breakdowns (for both of us). He didn’t really get used to it all til almost late winter. Myself, home schooling would have not been an option for me, I’m not up for it but there were days I had wished I was.

  • Reply Ingrid July 23, 2013 at 11:40 am

    As always with parenting, go with your gut and you can’t go wrong! Good for you :) I applaud you. I might puke if it was me too. But you definitely got this!

  • Reply Courtney July 23, 2013 at 1:01 pm

    Good for you! You’ll rock it, and I’m sure she’ll learn tons and have a fun year!

  • Reply Emily July 23, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    Please do a few posts on how things go! My husband and I are struggling with this for the future. My three year old will do preschool in the fall, 2 hours a day, 2 days a week. After that we are really doing our research and weighing the options for when he’s kindergarten ready. Good for you and good luck. It will be such a blessing for your family.

  • Reply Sandra Lovelace July 23, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    I also happen to know some pretty well socialized (almost seem normal) young people who were homeschooled K-12. You’re cool and you’ll do FINE. I can tell. I really can!

  • Reply Becca July 25, 2013 at 5:54 pm

    You go girl!! Sounds like a great decision.
    I don’t have kids yet, but I think that if I were a work-at-home mom I would like to do the same thing.

  • Reply Sarah July 26, 2013 at 10:41 am

    Yay!!
    I was actually homeschooled K-12, myself. And guess what? My parents WERE farmers! haha. I usually kept my mouth shut about being homeschooled; when other people started going on and on about how weird and awful homeschoolers were, I’d casually observe that I was homeschooled, too, and their mouths would drop. I would also then point out how many weird people go to public school–I think being weird has more to do with who your parents are then how/where you go to school :D
    Our oldest just turned 2, and our plans are to homeschool. The clincher for my husband was when he started working in the juvenile justice system. Children younger and younger are being criminalized for things that weren’t even offensive when WE were growing up. School is less and less of a safe place for children to learn and grow and make mistakes. And, isn’t that what so much of growing up is about?
    Anyways, you’ll do great! I have a feeling you are going to LOVE homeschooling your beautiful daughter :)

  • Reply Whitney July 26, 2013 at 4:51 pm

    As the daughter of a public school teacher (she was teaching 1st and is now moving down to K this year) I really do think school is important and have seen both good outcomes from homeschooling, and bad- same with public or private school. If she is young for the class I definitely agree that keeping her out is a good idea. However, I will say, that first grade is probably one of the most important grades in school (you learn all of the core fundamentals that carry you through life) and after subbing in schools for 1st grade I would never want that responsibility for my own child (unless of course the school nearby was awful-but then I will just make my mom come over and teach them! :) I know people who are wanting to home school, and to be honest, I am not sure they are fully capable and will do a disservice to their children by doing so. (It seems like their reasoning is so that they don’t have to plan around a school schedule so they can go shopping. etc. when they want to.) You however, seem fully capable and intelligent to teach her (and I don’t say that lightly!) and I think your reasons for doing so are valid (unlike the “I don’t want to let my child go” or “I don’t like the things other kids say in school” reasons.) Whenever someone tells my mom they want to home school she says to research as many programs as you can (they aren’t cheap!), make sure you know what the state laws are regarding moving to the next grade, testing, etc., and make sure you can give them the full time they need without interruptions from other siblings- to not treat it like a day to go outside and play all day, go shopping etc. (Which is so awesome that you can do that!) Good luck- hope you both have a great year!

  • Reply Angela July 30, 2013 at 3:18 am

    Hi Roo,
    I am from Singapore and homeschooling is not exactly common here. I applaud your decision to homeschool Remmy for a year! Something you wrote struck me as a mom of one teeny weeny baby. Remmy is “still young”. Indeed, they are only young for such a short period of time. There’s no better time to spend quality time with them while they are still young. All the best to you, Roo! *HUGS*

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  • Reply Beth August 7, 2013 at 11:26 pm

    I think that you know your kids better than anyone. It’s kindergarten, not high school. I am a teacher – 6-12. I’m not a huge fan of homeschooling in general. But for a kindergartener who is young? I think it’s a great plan if you have the time, ability, and energy to devote.

    And honestly? I love that you’re trying to give your daughter some one-on-one time that she probably rarely gets. I was just today feeling sad about the fact that my kids don’t get enough alone time, especially since the smallest was born….

    GOod for you! And good luck :-)

    • Reply Roo August 8, 2013 at 10:53 am

      Thank you so much, Beth! I always love hearing a teacher’s perspective.

  • Reply Tiffany August 8, 2013 at 1:28 am

    I will also be homeschooling my oldest daughter for Kindergarten this next year. Mine too are all three close in age. The next is four and the baby is two. I was a public school counselor and before that a SPED teacher. I NEVER dreamed I would homeschool but here I am doing it! Like many moms I had wrestled with tears thinking about the day she would go off to kindergarten. I tried to force another choice on our family and had already started the enrollment process at a small private school. It was going to be a stretch but we were going to give it a shot. Until I met the teacher and saw the classroom andmydaughter cried as soon as we left. (From not wanting to go/not liking the teacher) I liked it because it was half days, but as soon as We made the decision to homeschool we all had total peace. I’m so excited and can’t wait to start our adventures! Academically my daughter is extremely bright, socially and emotionally she is what a five year old should be. I dont want her to be bored for an entire day learning stuff she already knows. I know from experience that can lead to attention getting behaviors. I want her experiences with learning to be positive, and challenging. Best wishes to you on your journey! Ours will be a year by year, child by child decision. Lifelong commitments are reserved for more important things. For now this is clearly what’s best. Enjoy!

    • Reply Roo August 8, 2013 at 10:51 am

      Congratulations and best wishes to you, as well! Please keep me posted on how you’re doing!

      • Reply Tiffany August 8, 2013 at 5:49 pm

        I will and I hope you will too!

  • Reply Cara August 8, 2013 at 5:37 am

    Whatever you choose for YOUR child is the RIGHT choice. I homeschool my son – he’s now 7 1/2. There were a lot of reasons for the decision, but mostly, I just don’t think making children sit through an 8-hour school day is good for them. They need to be moving, exploring, playing. We school year-round too, so there is no learning lost or months to relearn when school starts again. We have a homeschool group and we take great field trips – 20+ a year as opposed to school kids, who get one or two. As for socialization, my son is comfortable talking and playing with kids of all ages and he can interact with adults as well. I think the stigma attached to homeschooling is fading, as the reasons people homeschool are changing.

    Anyway – good luck with it! If you need any help/resource ideas/suggestions, just let me know! I have tons of stuff on my Pinterest boards…and that’s just the tip of the iceberg – LOL! :-)

  • Reply Karianne August 8, 2013 at 8:01 am

    I’m really hoping you blog about this. I’m considering doing the same for my oldest (although I might start him with my son as well (who also will only be three when sibling number two arrives this fall…any tips for having kiddos so close together?)

  • Reply Lesley August 9, 2013 at 11:47 am

    Are you INSANE??? Come on, someone had to ask. And, yes, I have been reading long enough to know you are a little off kilter [go find the instagram video of a certain someone on a tricycle with a unicorn head on].

    I suspect that the arrangement can be flexible, if it goes hideously awry I would think you could switch her into registered school.

    I do hope it works out though.

  • Reply Missy August 12, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    I don’t know how I missed this post (probs had something to do with my sister being in town from Thailand) but I just wanted to say YAY!!! So happy for you and Remmy. I have been homeschooling since my oldest started kindergarten and honestly it was a little crazy and overwhelming at times but I am getting ready to start my 5th (!!!) [ o_O ] year in a few week and I don’t regret it for a minute. I have learned so much about who my kids are and what makes them tick. And I like to think they are totally normal and not weird at all. ;) Just know you are in good company and I know you will do amazing! So excited for you, Roo!

  • Reply Sarah August 16, 2013 at 11:46 am

    My oldest has a late April birthday, and he is absolutely getting another year of preschool. It means three years of it, but I taught kdg for six years. I rarely, if ever, have recommended a child go to kdg when they have a summer birthday. You are absolutely doing the right thing. Actually, my recommendation would be to send her to kdg the following year. It is really common for parents in my area (northwest Ohio) to wait to send their young five year olds. Kdg is what first grade use to be, and it is so long! I work under this philosophy. I would much rather be confident that I’m giving him a slight advantage than worry about him being too young and behind his peers. I wish you the best of luck with it this year!

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