At the conference in Orlando last month, I approached a friend who was standing inside a room, and she looked mad. I walked up to her and was like, “Hey, what’s wrong?” She told me nothing was wrong, and I gave her a look and I’m all “No really, are you okay?” because we’re friends like that and I can push a little with the questions. She responds, “What, is it my face? Roo, I just have bitchy resting face, okay?”
OH. Oh, okay.
I’ve heard of this phenomenon, which I will henceforth refer to as “cranky resting face” to keep things a little bit more suitable for work and also my mom. It’s when a person’s neutral face looks a little cranky. And then you stare at this person and immediately assume he or she is angry with you.
I do not generally have cranky resting face. In fact, I’m concerned that I have the opposite of that, because even when I’m sitting on a plane, earbuds in, trying to snooze, the person next to me really wants me to hear his/her life story. I think – with some exception – it’s a good thing, because I love people and I love when people feel comfortable with me. If I’m in an irritating or super-thinky conversation, my poker face comes up and I might look a little bored, but occasionally I’m a little too :) :D :D :D :D :D. Like, stop.
But I really needed to learn about cranky resting face so I stop annoying my friends who have it. If I’ve done that :O is everything okayyy are you suuuure are you feeling okay do you want me to get you a ginger ale?? please take this as my apology. Maybe you have cranky resting face, or maybe you jump to conclusions and assume your coworker hates you because she seems to be frowning your direction. This PSA is for all of us, yes, and amen.